Whether you just went through a breakup or you’re trying to finally cut ties with that f-boy, getting over someone can be really hard. In the last year and a half, almost every girl in my friend group has had some insane drama with boys – myself included.
I’ve watched us all struggle to come to terms with a relationship (or what we hoped was a relationship) coming to an end. It’s hard. All breakups are hard.
I’ve never really opened up about this on the blog much, but I was in a semi-serious relationship at the end of my senior year of high school and through most of my freshmen year of college. We had a mutual breakup due to many factors, but afterward, it left me feeling even more lost than going to college on the other side of the country already had.
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Only a few weeks later, I started trying to date again. There were some fails, but then I thought I found someone a few months later. However, I still wasn’t ready. So I broke it off and took a few more months for myself. Then at the beginning of 2017, I knew I was ready to date again. Which was when my drama started all over again.
I got entangled with a player. Somehow I fell really hard for this guy and he kept stringing me along for months. Then silence. Then he was back. Then silence. Then I was 100% done and decided to cut him off myself.
Writing this today, I realized that I’m finally at a place in my life where I feel genuinely happy about where I am romantically. Am I still single? Yes. But I have finally gotten over all my past relationships.
And I’m here to help you do the same.
By no means would I call myself the online dating queen. But I wouldn’t be opposed if someone started calling me that. Just saying.
Over the past few months, I’ve tested out about five dating apps. (Three of which I quickly deleted because they sucked.) The only ones I’ve gotten dates from are Tinder and Bumble. I haven’t gotten any new dates from Tinder recently, but I have gotten one from Bumble since my last post about it.
Although I’ve only gone out with three guys from dating apps, I’ve talked to more than that. And one of my biggest worries when starting a conversation was thinking of a first date idea. Heck, coming up with a first date idea for a guy you already know is hard enough. Now I have to do it for a guy I’ve never even meet in real life?
So today I’m supplying you with ten date ideas to save you from wasting all your brain power on thinking of what to do and can instead be used to figure out what you’re going to wear. Because we all know that’s a whole problem of its own.
These days, we’re bombarded with the idea of relationship goals every time we open or turn on any kind of media. Whether it’s an account always tweeting cute couple quotes or your friend posting cute as hell pictures of her and her significant other. The idea is even woven throughout books so it’s impossible for even us introverts to avoid. (Well unless you live under a rock.)
But there are some things that aren’t so #relationshipgoals. And lately, they sure have been romanticized.
*Quick side note: I’ll use the term boyfriend in this post, but this applies to all significant others no matter their gender.
Y’all absolutely ate up my first edition of my new Let’s Talk About Boys series! And a lot of you were commenting asking me to share my past Tinder experiences, so how could I not?
Here’s the backstory:
I downloaded Tinder in February of my freshmen year of college. I had just broken up with my boyfriend and was feeling super lonely. So silly me turned to an app known for hookups looking for a nice guy who wanted a relationship.
I found the app fun and addicting. I never ran out of guys to swipe through since it was during the school year and the campus was always crawling with
thirsty men. The app was so addicting that I would find myself reaching for it instead of Twitter or Instagram most times, and honestly, I didn’t see an issue with that. This was also at a time that I was trying to stay off of social media.
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I meet up with two guys through Tinder. For the sake of anonymity, we’re going to nickname them the Possible Catfisher and Mister Meet the Family.